Push Through The Pain http://pushthroughthepain.com Rise Above The Drama Sun, 16 Aug 2015 21:18:11 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.6.1 Just when you think all is lost http://pushthroughthepain.com/just-when-you-think-all-is-lost/ Sun, 16 Aug 2015 21:18:11 +0000 http://pushthroughthepain.com/?p=53 It’s incredible how desperate you can feel when you believe you have hit rock bottom.

hitting rock bottomIt’s like shit hits the fan and you don’t know what to do accept bury your head in your hands, put your tail between your legs, run for cover or beg the universe for solutions.

Yet, little do you know – YOU are the solution. You have all the answers within, you always did and what is to be will be whether you think you have something to do with it or not.

We truly do bring everything upon ourselves. The good, the bad and the ugly.  Our lives are our own creation.  We are one with everything at all times accept when we believe that the superficial world is all that we truly have and the answer to everything.

It is not.

We are the answer.

The sooner we figure this out the better. The sooner we realize that our wishes and intentions shape our futures the sooner we can see that every thought and every word forms the path ahead.

Even if it takes years to manifest the outcomes, they are ours to produce.

So where am I going with all this…it’s simple.

When/if you hit rock bottom, instead of wallowing in the pity of it it – why not step up and recognize that not only is it your creation but that you have control over how long you stay there too.

Only you can take action on what is “in the moment” and what “is to come”.

You built the path you are on and you will build the rest of it.

If you truly believe that your dream life looks very different from it is at this moment, and you hold on to that vision and only that vision – having faith and conviction that it will become your reality – it will be.

I can promise you that.

After 2+ years of circling the bottom myself, I see now that it was my own creation and I see exactly why.

Without sounding too ethereal – I do have to admit that I knowingly asked (the universe) for the gifts that I am about to receive (just over 2 years ago) and I knowingly accepted that I may experience some loss on the way to receiving those gifts.

Although I was not at all clear on every aspect of my requests – nor did I truly believe  that I was making a sacred vow to honor my part of the bargain,  I asked and the universe started to deliver.

maze of life

The universe and I worked collectively together to place and move numerous obstacles in to / out of my way so that I could learn how to fight for my gifts and prove that I was truly committed to doing all that it takes to get them.

Through the maze I traveled;  hitting walls, turning back around, feeling defeated and feeling lost…but never gave up. Even at the toughest point…when it seemed to be a neverending struggle to find my center again – I refused to give up.

Believe me, I had some very close moments where I thought it was inevitable that all would be lost, but I pushed through those pains.

Then, finally this month, I saw the gifts I had asked for.

I have not only seen them, but I have also touched them, felt them and breathed real life into them.

They are mine (to share with my loved ones) and they are here, now.

 

The choices I make from today forward will dictate how quickly I receive them, but they are real, they are here and they are not only the reward for all the pains I have suffered – but the true manifestation of my wishes.

To know this and to recognize that it is my creation (all of it), is a very powerful thing.

So my closing wish to you today , is that you too wake up and reflect on what you have asked for – so that you can open your eyes and see that where you have been, where you are and where you will end up are all part of the maze of life you created.  No one accept you can do navigate it.  Every other being is traveling in their own maze.

It’s up to each of us to find the center, in our own ways. In short…

If you seek the light (at the end of the tunnel/maze), you must look within.

The answers are all there, the future is already written.

Maktub.

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The Carpe Diem Experiment http://pushthroughthepain.com/the-carpe-diem-experiment/ Wed, 01 Apr 2015 16:59:13 +0000 http://pushthroughthepain.com/?p=48 comfort-zoneI woke up this morning feeling rather compelled to tell a little story about the personal journey we are all on.  It was prompted by a shattered dream one of my loved ones experienced yesterday.  I felt his pain, I truly did, but I needed him to know that there is more to this than what he may be thinking today.

I needed him to know that this too shall pass. So this story is dedicated to you DayDay…and I do look forward to seeing you come out on top of this one.

A tribute to your journey.

Some of us spend our entire lives working towards one end goal…ie: to do what we love most. Some do it for the LOVE of it, while others do it to earn the highest possible status we can with it (such as to become a professional musician, dancer, athlete etc.).

Some of us commit to that goal in such a way that leaves us open to the possibility that what we would love most in the end, is not necessarily going to actualize, where others commit so fully that there is no other end in mind – making certain that failure is not an option.
In both scenarios – we have the option to meet and/or exceed our dreams but also to feel as if we failed at doing so.
How you see it depends entirely on your own perspective and how you choose to accept what is already written.
What compelled me most this morning however was the idea that maybe, just maybe what we think the journey and the end goal of it is – was never really the purpose of it to begin with.

Maybe, instead, our journey was only ever intended to inspire someone else to commit and achieve to the same things we were, but better.

…..It could be a parent, a coach, a *sibling*, a friend or many people.
Or maybe, the lifelong commitments we make in that journey are meant to prepare or propel us towards similar or related journeys – that can only be accelerated by the skills we learn, the character we build, the relationships we create and all the other valuable life lessons that come with the previous experiences.

If these are REAL possibilities, then ANYTHING is a possibility.

ANYTHING…

Should that be true…our journey, the end result…it’s all a schrodinger experiment until it is officially observed as reality anyhow.

What we need to remember is this….

Change happens!

All the time. It is probably the single most certain thing in this world. It is as unstoppable as evolution – and rightfully so, the reason evolution occurs. They are one in the same.

>>>About the pain…

If a tree happens to fall in our path, if a link breaks in the chain, if a tragedy changes the course of history —- so be it. We cannot control that.

We can only control how we respond to it.

{This last statement is the most important life lesson we can ever learn}.

I myself, choose whenever possible, to deploy as much optimism as possible.

I am always looking for the silver lining.

Even assuming that maybe this change or that change prevented a personal tragedy of my own that would have otherwise done more than alter the path I took in the future. And in that instance, with that in mind, I switch from being sad about the pain, to becoming grateful.

It may take a little while to live in that gratitude and show it sometimes, but what I am working on now (that is making it easier to have that attitude of gratitude all the time) – is stoicism.

As my good friend Webster defines it; to be stoic is “to endure pain or hardship without a display of feelings and without complaint”.

Why stoicism?

Well, as I have come to learn with my early experiments…combining optimism with stoicism allows me to dramatically shrink the time it takes to recover from change.

I am It reminds me that what we focus on expands and that by choosing not to focus on hurt feelings, disappointment, resentment, the forever lingering WHY or WHY ME etc. — I instead get to focus on the exciting and infinite possibilities of WHAT’S NEXT?!

I never know what’s next, do you?

I have come to learn that even if I think I know, it can change in seconds.

 

Life is too short to wallow.

Life is too short to look back.

…There is no real point in either. What is and what will be, is already written. MAKTUB.

I say…have faith that everything really does happen for a reason, look forward to the day when those reasons reveal themselves to you – but don’t standby idle while waiting – instead seize the day, every day and start looking for that magic that was always around you when you were too busy worrying about what was and what could be.

I assure you THAT JOURNEY (Carpe Diem)…that is the one you want to be one.

Enjoy the ride.

 

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The Weight Gain Elimination Equation http://pushthroughthepain.com/the-weight-gain-elimination-equation/ Mon, 23 Mar 2015 20:35:25 +0000 http://pushthroughthepain.com/?p=38 Gaining weight {unintentionally} just sucks!

It’s the truth. I admit it.

5 Simple Ways To Lose The WeightBut you CAN do something about it.  The question is, do you REALLY want to and  if so HOW BADLY? In this life, you get to decide. Regardless of any predetermined fate that is ahead of us, we are still in the drivers seat of how we respond to everything.

And yet while we are in complete control of most aspects of our life from our health to our wealth, this is one of those areas that seems to be the toughest to tackle. Isn’t it.

For example, as of the last weigh-scale reading this week,  I have now officially gained 25 pounds in the last 2 years! And NO, it’s NOT ok.  It’s downright depressing. But, I am fully aware that I have no one to blame but myself if I don’t get rid of it.   It’s my body and my choice whether to stay in this state and let it get worse. No one else decides that.

Awareness is key here.

Without getting into detail about how I got here (because I have already talked about it on previous posts); my objective is to put it all behind me.  I have to take control of my own life. It’s very hard, I know that. But I cannot let that be the reason I don’t do it.

So how exactly am I planning to do it?  

The same way I lost 20 pounds nearly 5 years ago.

Step 1: Awareness

Being aware that you are faced with a problem is always the first step in overcoming it.  You have to stay in that awareness though.  You cannot ignore it and pretend it’s not a thing. That won’t help you get over it.

Putting the scale on the floor and measuring yourself daily is very critical to staying in the know.

It’s also a great way to get yourself committed to change.

Step 2: Commitment

brainstorming weight loss planWhen you are aware and ready to do something about it, that’s pre-commitment.  But just like awareness, you have to stay in it in order for it to become something actionable in your life.  A great way to do this is to agree with yourself that you need to fully commit

I do this by brainstorming ways to take action and make a difference, then I weigh the pro’s and con’s as well as the reality of being able to do so – until eventually I have a solid plan to move ahead with.

Some items to brainstorm are:

  1. Changing your diet (make it realistic and doable and discover how, what, where, when etc)
  2. Starting a dynamic exercise plan (so that you can guarantee some sort of exercise takes place each day whether you are at home, out of home, at the office or on the go)
  3. Adding supplements (sometimes a little help goes a long way)
  4. Finding a partner (to keep you accountable)
  5. Joining a group; such as a running or walking group (increased accountability)
  6. Weight loss meditations (yes, they do exist and they are effective for many)
  7. Active visualizations (similar to meditation but not exactly the same, this is you going through the motions of doing your daily exercises – but in your HEAD…science has proven this to be equally as effective in getting results for a shocking number of people.  It’s also a great way to get into the mindset of belief; believing that you can get it done and get results).

What I have found is that it’s never only 1 thing that makes the difference.  A diet on it’s own isn’t enough. Exercise on it’s own isn’t enough. And so on.  Make a conscious effort to impact all areas and you will certainly see greater success.

Step 3: Action

weightloss calendarWhen you have a plan, you can action it. But once again, you have to stay in the zone in order for it to become something that resembles progress.  Points 4-7 in the previous list will definitely help keep you in action.  But adding your actionables to a calendar will also make a big difference; as will checking the calendar daily and being prepared to do as it says WHEN the alert comes up.

There are a number of great weight loss calendar templates online – including pre-filled templates that you can simply print and use.  I found a few great ones listed here on Pinterest.

Step 4: Mindset

I did recommend meditation and visualization in the brainstorming steps above and I do believe strongly in their effectiveness, but these are not the only methods to changing your mindset and they don’t work if you can’t calm your mind or stay positive when doing so.

A few great methods for getting into a readiness mindset (outside of mediation and visualization) are:

  1. Journaling motivational notes to yourself (believe me, it sounds corny but works)
  2. Listening to music (positive, hype music specifically)
  3. Reading positive quotes, articles or even books (I follow and share a lot of these on FB. You can too just by looking for pages that are committed to daily inspiration or motivation).

Step 5: Reducing Sugar and Yeast.

reducing sugarI realize that this is something that is most likely to come out of the “dieting changes” brainstorming you will do, but whether it does or not, it’s worth mentioning in its own step as these 2 are the worlds best known silent waistline killers.

In addition to this, they both contribute to increased health risks such as diabetes, arthritis, ibs and more (as seen here on Huffington Post Healthy Living).   Therefore, if you curb the intake and cravings thereof, you will  decrease many health risks and will have much better chances of rapid weight loss and massively increased energy in record times. Win, win right!?

A few quick tips for cutting these two ingredients out of your diet are as follows:

  1. Do not eat anything with added sugar. (Natural sugars are ok in moderation).
  2. Check the natural sugar contents before buying and ensure that what you buy has the lowest among its shelf-mates.  And if you MUST get something sweetened, try where possible to get it sweetened with Agave, Stevia or Cane Sugar only <- these seem to be the best with the least impact to your health overall.
  3. Try wherever possible to limit your sugar content to 15 grams per day or less. This is very challenging at first, but doable if you are always looking to lower the number.  Even getting close to this is better than not trying at all.
  4. Don’t eat any breads or baked products that contain yeast, wheat or gluten.  Ezekiel & Kamut Bread were my saving graces.

Hopefully with all these tips you should be able to push well past the pain of weight gain and fast track to your ideal weight sooner than you think.

Wish me luck as I work on doing the same.

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Love You Some You http://pushthroughthepain.com/love-you-some-you/ Thu, 12 Feb 2015 19:14:31 +0000 http://pushthroughthepain.com/?p=31 Whenever the topic of low self-worth, self-confidence, self-esteem etc. ever comes up in our household, it never fails, my husband always finishes with his bold declaration “I love me some me” {his words to himself}.

When I first heard him utter those words (back in the earlier days when we were dating) I thought they sounded rather self centered and arrogant.

Part of me couldn’t understand how someone could truly LOVE THYSELF at such a level that they might disregard all others or all THINGS happening in the world around them to ensure complete self-preservation.

At least that was the thought process back then.

During those early times, when I was adverse to this mindset, I think was a little jealous and/or hurt by it. The concept of “I am my own man, I do what I want, when I want, how I want – because it serves me” attitude just seemed so narcissistic.

To some degree he still has some of that attitude about him…but I think he started to realize a few years into our relationship that it might not be fair to love yourself so much that you give others the perception they are without a doubt secondary in your life.   At the same time I started to come around (slowly) to the idea that if you didn’t put yourself first – nobody else would. But even then, it was still an idea for me.

In my 20’s and early 30’s  when I declared love for someone else, I had a tendency to put them first.  Even before myself. My pecking order was often my husband, my kids and myself (within our family unit). And on the most part I was REALLY happy with this.

Until all the walls of my life came crumbling down.

One tragic moment after another turned into 5 dramatic life changes in my world over a very short time period and I was literally FORCED to focus on myself if I had any chance of surviving it.

I couldn’t ignore what was happening in my life anymore and continue taking care of everyone else and their needs / desires first. I could no longer let the NUMB take over and become me / define me and destroy me.

AND, relying on professionals to instigate the improvements I needed and wanted became fruitless because I started using them as a crutch and an excuse as to why I wasn’t making the kind of progress I felt I deserved.

I wanted my life back (or some semblance thereof).  I needed to reclaim the power in my own universe.

I needed to become the driver – not the passenger.

I needed to get the hell out of dodge and start anew.

But what did that mean exactly?  Who was I and where exactly was I heading?

I used to be this person who spend all her days caring for others and never herself, so when it came time to face myself in the mirror…I found myself drowning in an identity crisis.  

I KNEW I needed help. But I also knew that it could ONLY come from within.

It no longer made sense to continue putting off self care or self preservation until things got better.  I had to make it better. ONLY me.

So how did I do it?

First step, was AWARENESS.

I had to get very clear on what was happening and the role I played in it. Lacking the ability to do this in my current state, I had to get off all my pharmaceuticals to clear my head.  I knew that they were supposed to treat physical pain, sleeplessness,  stress and anxiety but they were causing severe depression and depleting my ability to stay in what I refer to as a SANE mind.   *This step isn’t for everyone…but it needed to be done for me.

With a clearer head, I could start processing the damages.

I also had to ask (repetitively) WHO AM I?!

I had faint answers…but I didn’t have clarity. Not enough anyways.

I knew what I was professionally. That much was certain. But I had no clue what I was personally (other than a wife, mother and pretty absent friend).  I didn’t even know what I liked to do anymore…(for fun). I discovered that I had spent far too much of my life adapting to what everyone else wanted / liked to do.  I wasn’t sure if that was really me.

Turns out a lot of it was…but some of it wasn’t. So, I finally allowed myself to open up to the idea that I might have to redefine who I was. The more I explored, the more I found. This is a journey (still ongoing) that takes a while, but it’s well worth it.

I do not believe we can move towards a better life if we don’t know ourselves well enough to make it happen.

Second step, was INVENTORY.

Once I got a hold of who I was, I then needed to take inventory and take control of all that had happened over the years (and my role in it).  Even through the increased awareness of the ongoing pain and suffering I was still dealing with (still am), I was determined to create a plan of action and move forward.

Couldn’t do it without knowing where to go.

First, I made a list of all the loose ends that needed to be taken care of. (I am a todo list junkie – so this was extremely liberating for me). This was the quickest and easiest way to tackle the mountains upon mountains of STUFF that had piled up around me.

Many of those todo items I am still dealing with, which is totally fine with me.  At least I know they are no longer being ignored. Thank the lord!

I also made a list of the residual damages in my life…some which were in my control, others which were not that needed a long-term recovery plan.

Unfortunately with the kind of life-changing events that have occurred around me there are a lot of damages and many I am still dealing with. But I refuse to let them get the best of me.

So instead of staying angry at what has already happened and can no longer be changed, I decided to look at all my options for forward movement and weighed the pro’s and con’s between the best.

Narrowing down my options was very therapeutic as it gave me new HOPE that I hadn’t had in a very long time.  This was already progress. 

Third step, was TAKING ACTION!

Now this one required (and still does) a lot more than just stepping into awareness and taking inventory.  Both are actions, but at best they are SUBTLE actions.  They won’t make any difference unless they are truly transformed into real executables. So…I took my top contending “best options” and made the leap towards them.

Truth be told, I wasn’t entirely sure which option was going to serve me the best and result in the least resistance or residual damages.  But that was somewhat out of my control when I made the decision to follow my gut. It was all that I could do in the state that I was in.

I took the leap towards the option that provided the least amount of stress short term.

Usually short term gains are NOT my way of doing things, especially when it comes to business. But this was the biggest difference maker of them all for me (and my family). Without getting into exact details about what I did…I will tell you why I did it.

…Here’s why:

  1. I came to realize that life is WAY too short to ALWAYS hold out for the long-term win. There are no guarantees. Ever. Change happens too quickly. It’s unstoppable and we need to embrace that.
  2. I realized also that as quickly as my life fell apart it could just as easily improve. And if I chose to focus my attention on THAT possibility…I was far more likely to move in that direction instead. After-all, what we focus on expands!
  3. I also started to consider that there might actually be BETTER long-term gains available to me as a RESULT of my short term solutions (such as less pain and suffering, reduced stress and anxiety, reduced depression, increased confidence and  a stronger long-term outlook) and that it might be OK to think this way (from time to time).
    1. In other words, I started to figure that giving myself some short-term relief would likely give me the head space to do something even better (than I would have originally) for the long-term.
  4. And then….I started to think that – even though I couldn’t be sure, this might be one of the greatest gifts of all; the gift of loving / caring for yourself in the MOMENT  instead of worrying about the future.

Of course I am not oblivious to the fact that this may not work out…and that living ONLY for the moment doesn’t really help you get ahead in the future (unless you are doing both simultaneously).. but since I embarked on this journey I have been clearer, happier, more optimistic and more energized about what COULD be…instead of controlling the outcome in my own vision – than I have still my world crumbled.

With this new, short-term game plan, I wasn’t going to live in constant misery.   It was a refusal letter to that option.

Furthermore, this new decision allowed me to relieve the fear of the unknown. I was no longer going to allow myself to WALLOW in what MAY be in the future – or even take control over all kinds of things that I really have zero control over to begin with. It freed me.  It released me.

It’s not necessarily the PERFECT PLAN, but the bottom line is, it allowed me to “love me some me”.

And lets face it…

Schrodingers catThe future is as certain as the state of  Schrödinger’s cat for most of us.

So if you are – like me – accustomed to taking as many calculated risks as possible, controlling as much as you can and treading carefully for the long-term benefit and forgoing the short-term…you too may wish to consider for a moment that your overall sense of “what is” or “what could be” is perhaps as theoretical as the opposite version might be and that IF, in this very moment, things are not working in your favor, choosing the opposing theory – may actually prove better for you.

Perhaps it’s time to step back and love you some you!

 

 

 

 

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Finally, an early spring for Canada http://pushthroughthepain.com/finally-an-early-spring-for-canada/ Tue, 03 Feb 2015 01:08:12 +0000 http://pushthroughthepain.com/?p=24 Wiarton Willie was all smiles backstage as he hammed it up for the media while warming up for his big moment at the annual prediction ceremony at the Wiarton Willie Festival in Wiarton, Ont., on Feb. 2, 2014. (JAMES MASTERS/QMI Agency Files)

Wiarton Willie was all smiles backstage as he hammed it up for the media while warming up for his big moment at the annual prediction ceremony at the Wiarton Willie Festival in Wiarton, Ont., on Feb. 2, 2014. (JAMES MASTERS/QMI Agency Files)

In honor of my step-father (deceased October 07th, 2013), I am posting a short but sweet tribute to Canada’s official GroundHog  “Wiarton Willie” today.  (Creepy looking dude tbh. But that’s ok).

Wiarton is a small town near Sarnia, Ontario where my step-father grew up.  I have never been there and know very little about the place, but every single year on GroundHogs Day my dad wore his Wiarton Willie shirt to show his respects to the little guy, so we came to expect and appreciate it each year.

Anyhow…as the Canadian rival of Punxsutawney Phil’s, Willie decides for us Canucks whether we will see an early sprint or extended winter and I am ecstatic to say that while Phil claimed a longer winter for 2015, Willie declared an EARLY SPRING! 

Jumping for joy on the inside I assure you.

So why should you care?  Bottom line: it means that for those of us experiencing physical pains (especially in the joints) an early spring promises a happier, pain reduced February and March!

Now you can you rejoice with me and say a big fat YAY or YAHOO!  We love spring and cannot wait to embrace it. I know I am looking forward to the continued and increased sunshine.  I certainly need it.

So thanks Willie. You just made my day.

Miss you John. 🙁

 

 

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It’s time to be the Phoenix in your own life http://pushthroughthepain.com/its-time-to-be-the-phoenix-in-your-own-life/ Fri, 30 Jan 2015 20:38:43 +0000 http://pushthroughthepain.com/?p=12 One of my many favorite moments in the Harry Potter movies was this one, from Order Of The Phoenix, where Dumbledore escapes the wickedness of Umbridge.

It isn’t so much the CGI or even the moment itself as it is the symbolism of it.  Dumbledore shows without a doubt that he cannot be burned by the villains of the hour, he will not be a helpless victim, he will be a rebel / renegade whenever necessary and he will rise again — with style.  Which of course, he does, eventually.

That is precisely why I have created this blog and am writing this “sticky” post today.  I have (unfortunately) spent the good portion of the last 18 months of my life playing the victim in my own movie and have only very recently decided that ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

I know (as I have been practicing and teaching others for the better part of my lifetime) that we create our own reality.  That “we choose” how our life looks and feels. That whatever we say is true to us, even if in reality it’s fictional.

And I choose (whenever possible) to be the phoenix and rise above all the turmoil that I allow into my life (unknowingly or not).

According to WikiPedia:

In Greek mythology, a phoenix or phenix (Greek: φοῖνιξ phoinix) is a long-lived bird that is cyclically regenerated or reborn. Associated with the sun, a phoenix obtains new life by arising from the ashes of its predecessor. The phoenix was subsequently adopted as a symbol in Early Christianity. While the phoenix typically dies by fire in most versions of the legend, there are less popular versions of the myth in which the mythical bird dies and simply decomposes before being born again.[1] According to some legends, the phoenix could live over 1400 years before rebirth.[2] Herodotus, Lucan, Pliny the Elder, Pope Clement I, Lactantius, Ovid, and Isidore of Seville are among those who have contributed to the retelling and transmission of the phoenix motif.

Who wouldn’t want to rise from the ashes of their frustrating existence and start all over again?

Wouldn’t you?  Metaphorically speaking,  on those really tough days where everything in life seems to be going wrong, wouldn’t it be great to simply disappear and reappear anew?

Especially when all that you know doesn’t serve you anymore, feels far too different or lacks significant meaning.

Well what if told you that this was possible (again, metaphorically speaking).

All it takes is a little practice in active visualization (where you use all 5 senses).

Here’s how I do it.

Img source: Unknown. Would like to give credit. Please advise.

Img source: Unknown. Would like to give credit. Please advise.

  1. I visualize the phoenix and then immerse myself in all it’s glory (mentally becoming the phoenix). (Sight)
  2. I then take flight as the phoenixfeeling my claws and tail lift off the ground and the wind pick up beneath my wings. (Touch)
  3. I take a couple of deep gasps as the rush of the first wind hits my face…and then I acclimatize. (Hearing and Taste)
  4. And finally as I get used to this wind I begin to appreciate the incredible smell the freshness; a kind of freshness I never feel down here on the ground.

Staying in this frame of mind for 5, 10 or even 30 minutes, soaring, looking, listening, smelling, tasting and touching (the clouds) – I suddenly find myself in a state of ecstasy or peace that always leave me refreshed and new. Then, coming down from it…I realize, I AM at peace. I AM revived. I CAN stay in this state if I choose.

And that is it.

Revisiting this flight whenever things get a  little too tough…gives me a fresh new life each time.

Although, it may not wipe all the bad away, but it sure does help me approach it  with fresh eyes and a desire to stay in that Phoenix-like state of ecstasy.

Sometimes that’s enough to tackle the problem or in the very least reduce the negative power it has over me; in turn allowing me the freedom to choose.

And I CHOOSE HAPPINESS.

What about you? What do you do to rise above the ashes and approach life from a new perspective?

 

 

 

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You are the driver on this journey http://pushthroughthepain.com/driving-lifes-journey/ http://pushthroughthepain.com/driving-lifes-journey/#comments Fri, 30 Jan 2015 15:15:15 +0000 http://pushthroughthepain.com/?p=1 Whether you are experiencing physical, emotional pain or both, it all has a tendency to blur together doesn’t it?

roller coasterLike a wild and loopy roller coaster ride, the physical pain creates the emotional distress and the emotional pain creates the physical distress. You feel helpless and out of control. You don’t know what is coming next or when the nightmare will end (if it will at all). It’s just rough. At least that’s how it happens at first. Until YOU decide to take control.

Your mind is a marvelous supercomputer, capable of accepting new programming all the time.  And whether you believe it in this very moment or not, you CAN push through the pain, it doesn’t have to hurt {all the time} and the more you commit to taking control, the quicker and easier it becomes to get through the shit-storm that you feel trapped in.

All you need to do is remember that you are the driver along your own journey.

You can put whatever destination you want into the GPS. You can stay on the path or travel outside and find your way back.

AND..if you wish to stay parked, wallow in your pity and see if the hurricane picks you up, it probably will.

Likewise, if you want to put that baby in overdrive, slam the pedal to the metal and gun it – to avoid the hurricane, you CAN!

And most of the time…you will {avoid the hurricane} if you push hard enough.

This is your life, your journey and you drive the vehicle.

You create your reality. We all do. The first step is to make a FIRM decision about what that reality will be.

So what do you want? Ask yourself this and share your story below. We will see what we can do to help you through this one.

 

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